The Heavy Lift Blog

By Jorge Rubio, with the help of AI. If we accept that the human mind is a product of millions of years of survival, then our emotional struggles are not biological glitches. They are features. We often view uncomfortable internal experiences, like a sudden wave of anxiety or a heavy period of low motivation, as faulty programming that needs to be suppressed or immediately fixed. However, looking through the lens of evolutionary psychology reveals a different reality: your em

By Jorge Rubio If we accept that meaning is not something we find but something we bestow and that the pursuit of happiness appears to be the universal human goal, then happiness is the North Star that organizes our world. Happiness as discussed before is an organizing goal that shapes our lives into "vehicles" that help us move forward and "obstacles" that stand in our way. The Problem with the Pursuit However, the aim for happiness is not straightforward. Two major comp

Psychotherapy is often misunderstood. Many people assume therapy is something that happens to you, you show up, talk, and somehow feel...

By Jorge Rubio “It was hard to win the battle for survival, but it’s 10x harder to win the battle for meaning.” – John Danaher For most...

What Really Works in Counseling? When people come to counseling, they often ask: “What makes therapy effective?” The answer isn’t just...

Modern Culture: Eternal Youth We live in a culture that tells us life should be easy, emotions should always be positive, and any...

The brain is a powerful tool that has elevated humankind from potential prey to apex predator. A major contributor to this ascent is our...